LET GO?

What should we do about things that distress us, but we can’t ‘fix’?

If we keep worrying about these things, they sour our experience of life, don’t they?

We are best off if we let them go. To accept some pain, but release the suffering.

We do this by changing the stories in our heads. Our self-talk.

To realise that thoughts and feelings that appear do so out of habit.

We actually feel an agitation, and our brain, seeking understanding and control, comes up with the best explanation it can –drawing on old learning. 

The thoughts and feelings tend to appear as legitimate and as they appear out of habit, we accept them unchallenged- out of habit.

But we have chosen them, and we can choose to break the old habits. 

We can say, ‘I don’t want to keep this link between agitation and helplessness; between agitation and anger; between agitation and blame; between agitation and resentment’.

We need to step back and observe how the thoughts develop and change. Ask myself ‘I wonder what this feeling is going to do next? I wonder what thought will appear next?’

To realise that things aren’t that important.  That we do have options.